Our Wedding {Our Journey to the Alter}

{Venue Search} Which is your Favorite??

Friday, August 13th, 2010

Let’s ALL cross our fingers that this is the last time I EVER mention trying to find a venue. Gawwwd, I am so done with this part. I am beyond ready to get onto the FUN stuff!!!!

First off thanks SO much for sticking by me this whole time in my search for the venue, and hopefully at some point, my whole process of designing and planning my wedding. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it all.

OK, take your pick. Obvi they are all great places, but each has some definite pro’s and con’s, so I have to figure out which I may not be ok with.

Taber Ranch: gorgeous barn and ranch! This one is the cheapest option by far, but there are a few major cons. 1. May not allow fire pits, 2. It is in the middle of no where! There is only one Inn to stay at, and it may not fit everyone?? 3. It is 2 hours away! I don’t know how much guests feel about such a FAR drive!

Costanoa: I actually don’t have too many pro’s or con’s with this as Ian just found it last night. It’s close and it’s cute, but I have no info on pricing and all that.

Calistoga Ranch: LOVE this place so much. This is the extremely over-budget option that I love. But, I must say that this option is not my obsession as much as it sounds. It doesn’t have a ranch or barn like I have decided that I wanted. BUT, I still love it. It’s gorgeous, but it will cut the guest list and up the budget just a lot!

Thoughts??? Which is your favorite??? Any other Northern California options that you guys have??

PS: Just for kicks, let me show the option I would DIE for….if I wanted to pay the $10,000-$20,000 site fee….plus $250++ per person for food.

Let’s See Those Rings!

Thursday, August 12th, 2010

PSST: If you think I have what it takes, nominate me as one of the top 100 wedding blogs. I would appreciate it so much!!!

Time to talk engagement rings!!!! Chances are you are already engaged, so let’s show off our rings to the world, shall we???

Pre-engagement rings were the best thing to spend hours looking at, picking shapes, sizes, and imagining it on your finger for real one day. Post-engagement it is the one tangible thing that you constantly see that reminds you that this isn’t your imagination, nope, it’s all real! Your ring obsession has become the wedding planning and inspiration obsession that is now upon you as you prepare for the most amazing day of your life.

Your engagement ring isn’t just a ring. It isn’t about the size of the rock, but a confirmation that you two love each other and want to begin the rest of your lives together. I know that when I first got mine I would find myself staring at it all time time, and even then, I totally didn’t believe it!

So, let’s SEE these rings!!! E-mail a pic of your engagement ring to me (allison@engagedandinspired.com) and you’ll see yourself featured on Engaged & Inspired! Include a picture of the ring, and any other details about the proposal, wedding, etc. that you are bursting at the seems to share! Heck, send along as many photos as you want :) You’re engaged and your excited, so let’s share it all here! Oh and if you are on Twitter, include your Twitter ID too. That way I can know who you are :)

Can’t wait to see what you all have sitting on your left hand!

PS: If you are not yet engaged, send pics of your dream ring! Oh and make sure you shop at Abazias for your engagement rings.

Happy Anniversary to Us!

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

I just took a look through pictures of the last 5+ years of my life which makes this whole post that much more real to me. So many things you forget about until you see photos of it. (Thank you….facebook)

4 years ago I got the chance to fall in love with my now fiance. 4 years ago today everything came to a meeting ground, and we finally had the chance to be together.

When we met:

Surprising it started in the summer of 2001, I was about 13 at the time. We had gone to school together prior to this, but never really knew each other. My best friend was his sister, and his best friend was my cousin.  I was home from school on summer break (I went to boarding school….not cause I was “bad” BTW) and since he happened to live at my best friend’s house, well it made everything rather convenient. It’s hard to explain it all, but it was that young love kind of thing. Definitely the best summer of my life.

Obviously the last 9 years hold a million stories, ups, downs, etc.etc. And now we are here together after that much time has passed, planning a wedding and a life together.

Above are pictures from a few years ago. Oh and that’s baby Apple :)

That’s our godson Aiden :)

And of course, the ring. Top two were taken the night of the engagement. I couldn’t stop shaking, and therefore the picture kept coming out blurry. Read my proposal story.

(EWWW – my hands look disgusting….)

In the past four years we have built quite a little life together. Bought a condo and moved into it on our 6 month anniversary, expanded the family with our two little kitties Apple and Bisco,  got engaged, and moved into our newest even more amazing house! I’m sure the next 4 and 40 years will lead to many more amazing things, the most exciting of which is Reaghan, Brooklyn, Jonah, Ryleigh Aiden, etc. (I really love coming up with baby names haha)

Happy Anniversary HB :) Loovessss you!

{Bridal Shower} A Chic Brunch Affair

Friday, August 6th, 2010

This board pretty much completes my life. I can’t think of anything more amazing than a bridal shower brunch, I mean look at all the amazing options! I love the idea of mixing it up a little bit and doing a little brunch activity for the bridal shower. I feel like it is a little less-done and it gives a bit more of a reason for people to want to come. They know it is going to be an actual meal and even if it’s boring (I am very much not a fan of bridal showers…) at least they will be able to eat :) HAHA. I want to create a classy little brunch with chic tablescapes and cute little favors. Nothing massive, but since I feel for all those that hate bridal showers just like myself, I am trying to create a scene that they might actually be excited to come to!

My Bridal Shower Must Haves:

1. Raspberry in each champagne glass full of orange juice {or any drink for that matter!}

2. My mom’s homemade quiche {I’m obsessed!}

3. Crepes

4. Lattes with Coffee Stencils that say something awesome.

5. Lots of white and lightly colored flowers.

6. Box favors on each seat tied in a piece of light cloth as the wrapping.

I will have this list on my mind as the bridal shower gets closer and closer of course. And I will probably add a whole bunch more “must-haves” to it so I end up with the most incredibly {and probably way-to-fattening} brunch of all time!

What are your bridal shower must-haves???

{Venue Nightmare} Radonich Ranch and Vignette Events

Thursday, August 5th, 2010

When I first found Radonich Ranch, I brought it up to a friend of mine who had actually gone to see the place but decided against booking because of the early curfew and the fact that she couldn’t deal with the coordinator of the venue, Marky Carr. I should have been thoroughly warned at that point.

I called Marky, the owner of Vignette Events and the contact for Radonich Ranch,  on a Thursday and received a call back on Sunday. We talked again on Tuesday (after  trying to get a hold of her)  and set up an appointment. She knew how interested I was, what I wanted to do with the place, and that I was ready to book.  I asked about the fire-pits (didn’t want that to be a problem) and she said she would check with the owners and find out in a few days. No problems  there right? Wrong. A few days turned into a week, and after realizing that I hadn’t heard back, I called her and left a message. And then another, and another, and another. After 6 voice-mails and a lot of phone calls over the next several days, she finally called me back saying that the owners take a long time to respond but finally they said yes to the firepits. I gotta say, it was driving me crazy, I mean 2 weeks of no communication to a potential client?? Ummmm heeellllo!

We arrived to the venue and the feeling I got after meeting her was that she a) didn’t care that much about my wedding (or weddings for that matter) and b) she certainly didn’t care if I was going to book. Everything she was showing us was done a certain way, she uses this thing for this and that thing for that. She has the protocol to her cookie cutter wedding that she hosts and that’s the end of the story. Bye Bye creativity.

During the tour there was a point when I guess she thought we were no longer interested so  she got up and said “good luck on finding a venue” and walked inside to grab her purse and belongings to go home! Yep, fully left us stranded mid-tour! I was absolutely appalled.

Before leaving, I decided to bring up the points that I worried about in an effort to iron everything out. I brought up the care-factor, customer service issue and phone issue. I understand not wanting to hear those things about yourself, but at some point you have to step up and take some damn responsibility for your actions. Instead, she became defensive saying she was busy with other weddings, the owners don’t respond fast, I was being rude, etc. Never once did she take responsibility for anything nor did she apologize!

She called me not too long after to tell me that she was shaken up and upset about it all.  Umm-who calls a potential client and complains about how shaken up they are?? She continued to attack me for how I was being rude. WOW. Guess what I did?? I effing took it all and I fully apologized like 1,000 times!!! I even meant it. I didn’t want this to come between us due to the wedding I was dying to have there. It was part of my “dealing with her being crazy and having an amazing wedding anyways” plan.

The next morning I e-mailed her letting her know we loved the place and decided upon it. I again apologized a bunch  and said I hoped we could just get through it all. And what was her response:

…after further thought and discussion with the owners we feel that neither the ranch or my services will work for you wedding.  I am sure that you will find a venue that will better fit the day that you envisioned…

By the way: the owners she is referring to are the ones who a) have never met me so have no idea if the ranch will work for the wedding and b) are the ones that Marky continuously blamed the not -calling-me-back on because apparently they were busy and it took a while for them to get back to her. These owners are the ones that she somehow discussed everything with between 4:00pm on Sunday and 8:00am on Monday. I wrote an e-mail back apologizing 100 more times and just tried to make it all work out. To which she responded:
…It was a mutual decision and we reserve that right. I really feel that with your creativity and ingenuity you will find a place better suited for your day..

This is when it really hit me, she’s right, my “creativity” and “ingenuity” were too much for her to handle because she doesn’t have a burning passion to make each wedding unique, amazing, creative and gorgeous. Weddings aren’t her passion, they are her 9-5. All of us that pour over the blogs, get butterflies when finding amazing inspiration and are constantly in search of the best and most creative ways to showcase our big day understand the importance of creativity, but she doesn’t seem to care for it at all. She likes when people follow the protocol she has laid out and never question it once because it makes her job easier.
I was very upset and appalled at the professionalism and responsibility level at which she handled everything. I felt like it set a very poor example of her way of doing business and that I, as the potential client, should never be attacked. She didn’t handle anything appropriately and had many many opportunities to apologize and make things right. Valuing clients and being able to work with them is a great quality and one in which she does not display.
She’s been doing it for 20 years so she knows best and she knows it all. But, the wedding industry has become a place where creativity rules and no one is on top for long if they can’t stay customer service oriented and original! As far as new-age weddings, I knew far more than she did about the industry as a whole, and I think she took it as more of a challenge as opposed to an amazing opportunity to collaborate on something amazing.
BRIDES: Would you stand for this for a venue you love or is this behavior absolutely ridiculous??

VENDORS: What do you think? Am I being too harsh as a bride???

PS: If you think for even a second that I wanted it to happen like this, you’re so wrong. I know how amazing it all would have been and everything the venue and the coordinator could have to offer. It actually breaks my heart more than anything. I tried to apologize a million times and handle everything so that we could still work together and Marky refused that.

Taber Ranch – The New Venue???

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010

I have been a self-proclaimed basket-case for the last few days. But holy moly, I am so done with that. I have decided to just give it up and start looking for a new venue, one that was better. I know many of you are probably curious about what happened with the perfect and dreamy venue. Turns out that the perfect and dreamy venue comes with a not-so-perfect and not-so-amazing coordinator. Ya….In due time I will explain all the things that happened on that Sunday afternoon which left me in tears and thoroughly depressed and apathetic about this whole venue search. But that will be for another time once I can cool my jets a bit and not turn the whole story into a big fat he-said/she-said gossipfest. But rest-assured, the story will be told.

OK, now onto bigger and better things! People kept telling me that it was a sign, it wasn’t the right now, and all that. Well, as much as I beyond greatly appreciate all the encouragement and happy thoughts, I thought you all were crazy! Now I think you are right though. I found a ranch-style space that goes until 11. (Let’s just say that though I actually PREFER the 9:30pm ending time, that early time was the reason and start of the whole downfall at the other venue.) The space is amazing and everything really seems to jive so far. It is a few hundred dollars more expensive and I still have to check on the firepits, but it’s bigger, it’s better, and we get to have a little bit more than just wine and beer.

It’s called Taber Ranch and is about 2 hours north of where I live. That’s the only blah-zeh point, the long drive. But they have an adorable Inn there, and it seems to be exactly what I want minus one crazy lady and a bunch of dumb rules that I didn’t care to have restricting me.

Ready to see this beauty??? I think you all will love it. And though it is not Radonich, I think it’ll do.

Source: Andrea’s Images.

Light Up My Life

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

I’m trying to play it calm and act like everything is ok right now- but it’s so not, and unfortunately I don’t think I am very good at hiding it.

After my horrible venue meeting on Sunday, I can’t help but be incredibly discouraged right now. I can’t look at the same venues, and the same sites all over again. It’s driving me nuts. And the worst part is that it’s so all my fault. So not only am I discouraged, I feel so guilty for finding the perfect place, a place that Ian loved probably more than I did, and then taking that chance away. Wow- what a great feeling.

So this morning was quite challenging. I am officially engaged and uninspired. I know that’s bound to happen every now and then though. So in my search for wedding inspiration and things I love, well I don’t know anymore because I can’t even picture the wedding!

At least I know that these things will light up my life and will always be in my wedding vision. Let’s just hope that vision has a venue with which to blossom into an actual event.

Sorry for the vent- I’ll get back on my feet soon enough I hope and be back to battery with a new venue to show off soon :)

Thanks for encouraging words via Twitter as well. You guys are all amazing!

Games, Games Everywhere!

Monday, August 2nd, 2010

At first thought, I would tell any bride not to have games at the wedding. Games can get pretty competitive and you don’t want people losing site of the purpose for them being there just because they are too enveloped with their game. I definitely don’t want people lagging behind while we are all trying to be seated due to the fact that an intense game is going on.

However, my whole viewpoint really turned around at some point. I don’t know if it was the venue, or what, but I sort of began adding games into the wedding plans. My idea would be to add horseshoes and bocce ball into the cocktail hour. Both are pretty social games and hopefully nothing too heated will come from those choices. But, I think they would be a fun way for people to hang out during the time before dinner. It is also a great photo opp as well! And how cute are these sets?? They would go perfectly!

Maybe games aren’t bad after all! Huh? I definitely think I am going to add in these little ideas as something extra to do! Anyone else adding any games to their wedding?? Any past brides have feedback from doing it??

{Inspired Style} Winery Wedding

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

Happy Wedding Wednesday to everyone! This week is all about inspired style, (and let me just tell you, next week we have some great things to talk about!) We are going to continue on this Monday with the winery style. Taking the natural colors of the scene, winery weddings have a sense of romance and organic beauty.  PS: I want those burlap bottles SO bad!

Source: Burlap Keg, Wine Corks, Dress, Burlap Tables, Peonies, Wine Bottles

So, who is doing the winery wedding?? Would love to hear about the details you are adding! Comment below and tell me all about your Winery Affair!

{Our Wedding} Finding The Venue

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

UPDATE: As much as I LOVED this venue for our wedding, everything took a sour turn and the venue ended up turning into a nightmare…..Read about the Radonich Ranch venue nightmare here.

Holy Moly this has been quite the morning! I haven’t been able to sit down and write a blog post as I have been busy talking to the coordinator of the venue I love :) I always have a good reason!

Yep, you read it right. Going to book, like in real life, like that point of the wedding planning I never thought I would get to. Yep, I’m there! And boy has it been a journey.

Source: 100 Layer Cake

When I first started all of this, I told myself (and all of you) to hold out for the perfect venue with the perfect price, not to settle for something less, and even if it takes forever, don’t give up. Well, I just barely followed my own advice! I was looking for so long at so many places. I almost settled on some amazing and totally over budget venues many times. Each time I knew I wouldn’t be happy feeling ripped off, but that there seemed to be no other solution. The idea of looking on herecomestheguide.com one more time made me want to die. I gave up many times, and came back to it many times. I have created some tips to venue searching in case it helps any of you that are going through hell finding the venue.

Google It: Whenever I find a venue that I like, I search google images to get more photos of the space, inspiration from other weddings held there, and an overall reality on the feel of the space. When I found Vignette Vintage Ranch I did that and found some really great weddings, so I had an idea of how it all went and what the feel of the space was going to be.

Talk It Over: Right before going to see the space, I prepped myself for it. A few of my BM’s and I talked about different ideas I wanted to add to the wedding and how (or if) those would fit in. Turns out that all the various ideas I wanted for my wedding would fit perfectly with this space. I also realized that the runner-up venues, weren’t the right style for the ideas I had. This made me mentally prepared to picture everything in the space when we went to see it.

Prioritize: No venue is going to have every single thing you ever want, especially if you are in a budget. You sort of have to prioritize whats important and what isn’t. I actually didn’t have to do that too much. Because of the price, I was able to keep my whole guest list and the one thing I really wanted, fire pits, I was able to negotiate and get them. Yay for that.

Get Inspired: If you have a vision of your wedding and a style you are going for, it makes it a lot easier to picture yourself and your wedding in that space. Get inspired with ideas for your wedding so you know what you want. Vineyard, Rustic, Barn, etc. This can definitely be rather hard, especially if you are taking items from so many different styles, but once you get the vision together, I swear it will make it so much easier.

Don’t Give Up: I’ll be the first to say it, easier said than done! I totally know! You want to settle and you want to go over budget just to get it over with. But in reality you probably won’t be very happy in the end. Going over budget either means more stress and cutting out people or ideas you really wanted and neither of those are really fun. I literally waited for 8 months of constant searching and feeling like nothing would ever pop up. I felt like I had seen every venue again and again. If you just wait it out, you will find something.

You’ll Be Surprised: When you find the venue, you will definitely be surprised about it all, and it will feel amazing! I talked to the coordinator of our venue and it turns out she does the centerpiece flowers, supplies mason jars, old boxes, milk jars, apothecary jars, antique old linens, etc. SCORE! That is going to save me a lot of money right there! On top of all that, the price is far. See, it somehow all worked out and everything fell into place, though I pretty much assumed it never would.

Overall, this place is perfect for me. It won’t stretch my budget to an ungodly amount and I will still be able to have everyone there that I want to be there. (Except Bear sad face) I get to incorporate all the ideas I have into this space, and best of all, it will all turn out perfectly! I never really knew that this is what I was envisioning this whole time, but it totally is!

Anyone else have really good suggestions for those in venue turmoil??? It’s such a hard process.

Hey, check out the journey I have taken to finding a venue from the original Aptos dilemma, to the back yard wedding pros and cons, including the actual backyard I would have it in! Also, there was the time I was going to pay a ridiculous amount in site fees. Down to the time where I just sent a plea for help on the blog! And finally, pictures of the actual wedding venue!

How am I planning on decorating this amazing venue?? Check out a few of my favorite things I plan to incorporate, S’more favors, my actual wedding favors pies,  and some really cool centerpieces that I love!

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